特别广播英语第 172 课：Children's Self-esteem 孩子们的自尊心-2

Self-esteem is a kind of energy, and when it is high, people feel like they can handle anything. 自尊心是一种能量。自尊心强的时，人们感觉好像能够处理任何事情。

It is what one feels when special things are happening or everything is going great. 这就是当特殊事情发生或一切进行得很顺利时一个人的感觉。

A word of praise, a smile, a good grade on a report card, or doing something that creates pride within oneself can create this energy. 一句赞扬的话、一个微笑、成绩报告卡上的一个好分数，或者做王码电脑公司软件中心些使自己引以自豪有事，都能产生这种能量。

When feelings about the self have been threatened and self-esteem is low, everything becomes more of an effort. 当自我感觉受到威胁，自尊心不足时，任何事在更大程度上都变成了一种需要费力去做的负担。

It is difficult to hear, see, or think clearly, and others seem rude, inconsiderate, and rough. 很难听清楚、看清楚、想清楚，其他人都似乎没有礼貌、不体谅人、粗暴。

The problem is not with others, it is with the self, but often it is not until energies are back to normal that the real problem is recognized. 问题并不在别人，是在自己。但常常直到恢复到正常的精神状态，人们才认识到真正的问题所在。

Children need help understanding that their self-esteem and the self-esteem of those they interact with have a direct effect on each other. 孩子们需要帮助为理解，他们的自尊和与他们交往的人的自尊彼此相互影响。

For example, a little girl comes home from school and says, "I need lovings 'cause my feelings got hurt today." 例如：一个小女孩从学校回家说："我需要爱抚，因为今天我的感情受到伤害了。"

The mother responds to her child's need to be held and loved. If instead the mother said she was too busy to hold the little girl, the outcome would have been different. 妈妈应回应她的孩子对被爱抚和被爱的需要。如果反之，妈妈说她太心不能爱抚这个小女孩子，结果就不同了。

The infant's self-esteem is totally dependent on family members, and it is not until about the time the child enters school that outside forces contribute to feelings about the self. 婴幼儿的自尊完全依赖家庭成员。直到孩子上学时，外界的力量才对孩子的自我感觉产生影响。

A child must also learn that a major resource for a healthy self-esteem comes for within. 孩子必须明白健康的首尊主要来自内部一些父母在实践中培养他们的孩子依靠外部因素而不是内部强化。