特别广播英语第 297 课：How Self-Acceptance Leads to Happiness Within
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Finding acceptance is a natural desire of most people. 渴望得到接纳是大多数人的一个自然愿望。

When we are young, it is important to us to be accepted by a group and to be seen as "cool" by our peers. 我们年轻的时候，能被一个团体所接纳，被同辈认为很“酷”，对我们来说是很重要的。

To do this, we will often adopt the views and interests of the group rather than develop our own. 为此，我们常常要接受与团体一致的观点和兴趣，而不去发展我们自己的观点或兴趣。

Over time, however, we have the opportunity to learn to accept ourselves. 然而，随着时间的推移，我们开始有机会去学习接纳自己。

People who have done this are confident in their true abilities; they do not feel the need to create a facade to impress other people. 懂得如何接纳自己的人，表明对自己的真实能力很有信心；他们觉得没有必要去制造假象，让自己给人留下深刻印象。

They are concerned with whether their actions produce worthwhile results rather than with how they are seen by others. 他们所关心的只是自己的行为能否产生有价值的结果，而不在乎别人会怎么看他们。

Less secure people are quite different. Instead of finding security in themselves, they look for other people to provide it. 缺乏安全感的人就很不一样了。他们往往不是在自己内心寻找安全感，而是寻找他人的帮助来获得安全感。

This kind of person constantly agrees with everything others suggest, for fear of having their own ideas rejected. 这种人总是同意别人建议的每件事，就因为害怕自己的意见会遭到拒绝。

Arrogant or defensive people are also usually insecure; in an attempt to hide their insecurities, they belittle or blame others. 傲慢或防御心强的人通常也是很没有安全感的；他们会借着贬低或指责别人，来掩饰他们的不安。